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Tips for contacting other fetishists and BDSM people:

Be willing to travel - it really is worth driving a couple of hours just to attend an event with open-minded peers.

Be flexible - general BDSM groups might not immediately address your specific fetish, but through large groups you may eventually find others like yourself.

Be cautious - don't give out your personal information until you are completely comfortable with a group.  (If you want to contact anyone via email, consider using Hushmail, so that people can't trace your individual I.P.# address.)

Be selective - most groups are legitimate, but some groups are organized by people who can't get people to play with them any other way.  Use your judgment before joining an organization or engaging in play.

Be polite - find out what the group's rules and etiquette are, and follow them.  If necessary, err on the side of caution.

Be honest - you don't have to have the "most common" fetishes or orientations.  If you're a switch, dom, sub, voyeur, asexual, whatever, don't accept any pressure to act like you're something other than what you are.

"From the time I was a teenager some 40 years ago I wanted to play bondage games; in my case I like doing the tieing. I dreamed about it and that was all until 6 months ago. I went online and found a BDSM club about an hour away. I joined it and after a few months got to know how to meet and enjoy a play party. Now a couple times a month I get to tie, handcuff, ballgag etc a lovely lady in real life. The funny part I never dreamed there were so many kinky women in the world who love... let me repeat love to be tied or tie someone. Just a couple days ago I met this drop-dead lovely nurse no less who wanted to play with handcuffs and be spanked. I'm in my 50s and my big regret is it took me this many years to go from dreaming about my desires, and start living it. To any and all who will listen, check around -- this is far too much fun too miss out on because you are a little shy." --visitor "Steve from So. Ca."